My Storms

by Busymumhacks

Hey, Busy mums,

I hope you are well and striving.

I last dropped by in June because it is the end of the Financial Year in Australia. As a working mum and an Accountant, it was a busy time. I had a duty and obligation to perform both roles. One role is to pay my bills, continue living and for my career progression, while the other is to enrich my life.

Like you, I have been going through a roller coaster. 

In the past four months, I have gone through big emotions. I dealt with my demons while being attentive to my son’s demons.

  1. I lost my father-in-law, who lived alone overseas. My son met him before the COVID-19 pandemic, and we have never seen him after other than through video calls here and there. I had to talk to my son and teach him big emotions that this was real and that he wouldn’t ever be able to see or speak to him. In the case of my father passing, he was too young to understand, but he felt sad through my eyes and my emotions, not his real emotions.
  2. I stepped back from volunteer work as Treasurer and Marketing Officer. It is time to move on because the energy doesn’t reciprocate. I started something for something that would benefit from my service; however, I can take my service back for my own sake. In this instance, stepping back also means giving the space to someone else to shine and carry on the baton.
  3. My son started a guitar lesson. That was amazing because he chose the instrument. We tried piano and drums, but he picked guitar of all. He picked up very fast and asked me if I needed a lesson from him after two sessions.
  4. My mum had a stroke, and she lives alone overseas. This stroke is her second time in five years. When that happened, we rushed back to look after her. She is much better now.
  5. My son got sick immediately after returning from overseas. He contracted bacteria from overseas. I had never felt so helpless for him. We were in the ER three times. He lost 1.5 kgs in a week. He is now healthy and has gained the weight he lost and adding more to it. We are lucky to live in a country with advanced medical technology.
  6. My ten-year-old car broke down immediately after my son got better. I didn’t budget a primary fixing vehicle this year. It means cutting other expenses to balance the family budget.
  7. When I thought the storm was over, the aircon tradie broke the aircon at home, so now it can’t be turned on at all. I am hoping it will be fixed before the hot, scorching summer,

I am exhausted.

But I did not lose my cool.

I focused on getting on the challenges one by one.
You know what, when you have good deeds, the universe will also conspire to help.

The main lessons I learned from those challenging situations:

  1. Prioritising Family
    My experiences highlight the importance of family. I had to navigate challenging situations, demonstrating the significance of being there for my loved ones during difficult times.
  2. Emotional Resilience
    Dealing with my own emotions and helping my son understand and cope with the loss of his grandfather is a testament to my emotional resilience. It is essential to acknowledge and process my emotions while supporting others.
  3. Stepping Back
    Recognising when to step back from commitments or volunteer work is a valuable lesson. I must prioritise my well-being and allow others to take the lead.
  4. Supporting my Child’s Interests
    I encouraged my son’s interest in music, particularly his choice of the guitar. I was willing to support and nurture his passions. It is a reminder of the importance of allowing children to explore and express themselves.
  5. Being There for Family in Times of Need
    My quick response to my mother’s stroke and my son’s illness highlights the importance of being there for family members when they need me the most, even if it means making sacrifices. I still worked where possible while my son was sick.
  6. Financial Preparedness
    Unforeseen expenses happen, and I emphasise the importance of having an emergency fund or being financially prepared for unexpected challenges. Budgeting and financial planning are essential for maintaining stability.
  7. Resilience and Adaptability
    Despite the numerous challenges, my ability to adapt and continue forward is a testament to my resilience. Life is full of ups and downs, and my ability to persevere through these tough times is a valuable skill.
  8. Self-Care
    Self-care is not selfish. I remember the importance of taking care of myself. Balancing act between work, family, and personal challenges can be overwhelming, but taking time for self-care is crucial for my physical and mental well-being.

Life can be unpredictable, but I hope the lessons I have learned inspire you to navigate future challenges with strength and grace.

Share with us in the comments if you have gone through the storm recently and felt proud that you overcame it.

It is okay to ask for help and lean on your support network when needed.

I hope that life goes in the right direction.

Marching on, Busy mums.
Take care and be well.

Busymumhacks x

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